Of course if you commit yourself to 12 social media posts about happiness and gratitude, you will get sick. And you'll host a cookie decorating brunch, and take your daughter to see hip hop nutcracker, and go on an overnight trip that involves lots of wine drinking with your husband. You'll feel so happy and grateful, but you will lose your voice (figuratively and literally) and be too tired to type. When your four year old wakes you at 6am on Christmas morning, you'll panic because you were too tired to put out the gifts or plan a fun breakfast. But you'll walk downstairs and see that your husband played Santa AND baked jelly donut muffins and you'll wonder why you thought it was your job to do those things in the first place. I am ever grateful for a partner who steps in when I need it and steps back when I want it. One who only grumbled a little bit when I made him help me wrap all the gifts this year.